留學生essay代寫——社會心理學essay代寫：根據社會心理學原理分析大學生人際交往中存在的問題，并提出措施和意見

I. Introduction

    Interpersonal life practice through mutual exchanges and interaction between the formation of direct mental contact between people. Students interpersonal relationships are important aspects of student life can not be ignored.

    The growing maturity and stability of the character of university students, their values, worldviews basic shape, and have shown their own unique perspective on many issues, and easy to more stubborn, showing a certain degree of persistence, therefore, in their interpersonal relationships requires a loose and free environment. Specific contacts and the following characteristics: personality equal basis; contacts to the scope, content, and the way open; pure spirit; high expectations and ideals; exchanges in the initiative, and a strong sense of cooperation.#p#分頁標題#e# But there are also a part of the students, due to his own personality, cognition and other aspects of factors, resulting in the formation of unreasonable self-evaluation, can not correctly understand the position and role in their environment, interpersonal the behavior of a variety of adverse reactions, leave a haze, affecting the ability of social adaptation to university life. Even severe cases, but also on their own, causing varying degrees of damage.

Second, the students' frequent interpersonal psychological barriers

An inferiority complex is quite part of the students performance from my evaluation of the lower, the lack of a sense of belonging, feel ashamed, is not optimistic about the future expectations and other psychological. Inferiority complex makes contacts, lack of confidence when dealing with others seems cautious, always thought that this is not no good to seek a sense of security always like to be placed in groups, which will own interpersonal limit is very limited .

2, the fear of many students on interpersonal fear, or feel that their unsociable behavior mannerisms, or think people If Tan profound and unpredictable, more minority students feel that misunderstandings had to prevent. Fear not unwilling to relate to people, but not with people, the hearts of eager but timid action.

3, closed mental part of the students like to hang around in their own inner world of contemplation, they confined to the "human nature is selfish," the judge to avoid the groups move about independently, they are dismissive of the people around narcissistic, they prefer to hi#p#分頁標題#e# angry dirge carry their own and do not want to share and communicate with people. Closed mental people to become accustomed to self off from the world, around the world do not want to care, dismissive, and then develop to poor care, so, it is difficult to integrate into the group to integrate into society.

4, the the indifference psychological part of students show little interest in the well-being of others, also disdain the collective affairs, do not concern the public welfare, all have the "sit on the watch, keep a distance" attitude.

5, hate psychological hate psychology is the most harmful kind of interpersonal psychology, it is easy to reduce the sensible people of the people in the emotional state, in this state, there is often extreme, impulsive, rage, aggressive behavior, thus deterioration of interpersonal relationships.

Three, students interpersonal skills and art
     Students move into the university campus, due to come out just nervous, heavy high school life, time and opportunities for in-depth social, interpersonal relationships, their brain is almost a blank. College life, but also precisely the exchanges need to communicate. How to open the college students' interpersonal situation? Master the exchanges of the trilogy of Students of contemporary college students to win a good and harmonious interpersonal relationships would be beneficial.
#p#分頁標題#e#The first step to grasp the principle of successful exchanges
A. Equal exchanges
Equality, mainly referring to the equality of attitude from both sides, each of us has its own independent personality, dignity and legal rights and obligations in life, the relationship between people is an equal relationship. In the interaction process, if the party commanding, domineering, dictating, insufferably arrogant, then he will soon be isolated. Students often a strong personality, and each other admit defeat, this spirit is worth promoting, but must not be an expert one, due to students between the objective differences in origin, family, experience, and looks for "new light."
Adhere to the principle of equality of exchanges, it is necessary to correct valuation of their own, do not look at its own advantages and domineering, and do not saw their own weaknesses and blind self-esteem, to respect other people's self-esteem and feelings, not "under the Caidie Man".
Two. Respect for others
Each person has their own personal dignity, and expect to be respected in a variety of occasions. Respect can lead to feelings of trust, open, and shorten the psychological distance of contacts. In general, self-esteem of college students have a strong, college students, especially in interpersonal pay attention to the principle of respect for, does not damage the reputation and personality of others, recognition or affirmation of the capabilities and achievements of others.#p#分頁標題#e# Otherwise easily lead to interpersonal tension and conflict.
Adhere to the principle of respect for, must pay attention to the respect for the students in the attitude and personality, equal treatment, pay attention to the language of civilization, be polite, do not open a mischievous joke, chaos to the students dubbed, respecting the habits of the students.
3. Be honest
Sincere bridge of communication between people, the only honest, from both sides to establish trust, and formed a deep friendship.
Adhere to the principle of good faith, we must do the warm care and truly want to help others without asking for anything, sincere criticism of the shortcomings and deficiencies of the friends can. People on the matter of seeking truth from facts, different points of view bluntly own views rather than duplicity, neither flatter the people, do not slander people behind the scenes, to do with utter sincerity, the sincerity of others, largeness of mind.
4. Mutual benefit
Interpersonal relationship to ability to meet the needs of both sides. If both sides of psychological needs can be met, their relationship will continue to develop. Therefore, both sides must be based on the principle of mutual benefit. Mutual aid, when the party needs to help the other party within its power to give each other help. Such help can be a material respect, it can be spiritual; can be mental or physical.#p#分頁標題#e#
Adhere to the principle of mutual benefit, we should get rid of extreme individualism, with people willing to help others. At the same time, but also good to help others. Someone to help you overcome the difficulties, he would be happy, which can further communicate the emotional interaction between the two sides.
5 Pay attention to credit
Credit is a successful partnership, the intangible capital, the ancient traditions of the Chinese nation. The credit principle requires that students the interpersonal say the truth, true to its word line, the line must be. Promised to do no matter how difficult things have to do everything possible to spare no effort to do so. If after repeated efforts did not materialize, it should be sincere description of reasons, not the idea of ??"make do", "deal with". Trustworthy who can pay the true friends, good friends; bad faith can only cross the moment a friend or will eventually be abandoned.
Adhere to the credit principle, to do about time to time and also by the material, do not mess suspicion, not easily promise, lip, and let people empty joy.
6. Tolerant
Interpersonal misunderstandings and contradictions often. Students strong personality in close contact with, will inevitably be a conflict.#p#分頁標題#e# This requires that college students do not care about the exchanges, and to humility, generosity, restraint and patience, do not care about each other's attitude, and do not care about each other's words and the courage to take the responsibility of their own behavior, so that the prime minister goes to punting.Quarrel with him, you do not quarrel; his fierce, you do not vicious; he scolded, do not you curse. As long as we are broad-minded and angry people will consciously boring.Tolerance, restraint is not weak, timid performance. Instead, it is a performance measure is to establish a good social lubricant, "swords into plowshares" and win more friends.

The second step, to master the art of interpersonal
A. Language Arts
"Remarks to three warm in winter, verbal abuse, assault, June cold." These two words tell us to pay attention to when dealing with the artistic use of language. Language arts are used well, can optimize interpersonal. Conversely, if not pay attention to the language arts, often inadvertently export wounding, a contradiction.
(1) call decent. The title reflects the close psychological relationship between people.Proper names, people can gain a psychological satisfaction, make each other feel cordial contacts have a good psychological atmosphere; call inappropriate, tend to cause each other unhappy and even angry exchanges blocked or interrupted.#p#分頁標題#e# In the interaction process, according to the other's age, identity, occupation and exchanges occasions, the closeness of the relationship distance to determine each other's call. Call to be respected elders, peers called a cordial, friendly, close by their first names are not familiar with the use of the full name.
(2) speak courteous
(1) correct use of language, articulate, vivid, accurate, and influential, logical, less use of indigenous languages ??and dialects, nothing exciting avoid abuse of rhetoric, vague, boring Thelephora. ② voice, intonation, speech rate to be appropriate, according to the conversation and occasions, to take the appropriate voice, tone and speech rate. (3) to tell jokes to pay attention to objects, situations, and sense of proportion, so that the joke so insensitive and hurt other people's self-esteem. ④ moderate praise each other: everyone wants someone else to praise their own merits. If we are able to explore each other's strengths, praise, he would be happy and more exchanges with you. But praise should be appropriate to have specific content must not Quyifengying to. Sincere praise can often get unexpected results. (5) to avoid controversy: young college students like to argue, but the debate is often at the unyielding, red in the face unpleasant even evolved into direct personal attacks or serious hostility in the end.#p#分頁標題#e# This interpersonal influence is obvious. College students should try to avoid controversy, but through discussions and consultations on ways to resolve differences.
The use of good language arts, will be able to attract and seize each other in content and form to adapt to each other's psychological needs, knowledge and experience of bilateral relations and exchanges occasions, to make contacts closely related to them.
Two. Non-Language Arts
Generally include eye contact, gestures, facial expressions, posture, position and distance. Master and apply the art of good such contacts and interpersonal relationships are essential to college students do a good job. "The eyes are the windows of the soul" and "eyes like a mouth, like talking. The facial expression is the outward manifestation of inner emotions, they are able to express the attitudes and emotions. Such as enraptured the heart glad, angry angry staring eyes. Contacts can also use body movements to express ideas, students in the interpersonal conversation and occasions, the correct use of non-verbal art, subtly express their thoughts and feelings, can sometimes act as a "silence speaks" role. Non-verbal art to make use of right, not too frequent and exaggerated, so as not to give a sense of dancing.#p#分頁標題#e#
In addition, students also learn to listen effectively. Interpersonal scholars believe that "listen" is an effective tool to maintain relationships, almost all of the people like to hear him, so, students must learn to listen effectively. To communication, as the listener to pay more and speak less and listen more, do not interrupt each other's conversation, it is best not chipped after the others finished to express their views; to try to show interest in listening, listening to what others are saying look at each other, should not the little tricks to prevent the other party that you are impatient; strive to put ourselves in each other's role to consider the issue and expressed concern for each other, understanding and sympathy; not easily argue with each other or the improper comments.

The third step is to enhance their interpersonal charm
Interpersonal charm is formed in the process of interpersonal communication, the tendency of the individual active and positive evaluation of others given. Everyone has their favorite, and is willing to associate with; everyone has their own nasty people are not willing to deal with these people. This phenomenon reflects the fact of interpersonal attraction. Then, the college students how to enhance interpersonal attraction, a popular?
A. Efforts to establish a good first impression
#p#分頁標題#e#How performance can give the impression that a good first impression? Psychologist at Carnegie in his book "How to win friends, how to influence others," a book summed up six ways to give the impression that a good first impression:
(1) genuinely interested in others
(2) smile
(3) mention the name of someone else's
(4) a patient listener, encourage others to talk about their own
(5) talk about in line with others interested in the topic
(6) with a sincere way to let others feel he is very important
Two. Improve the quality of an individual's external
The pursuit of beauty, to appreciate beauty, to shape America's human nature. The appearance of beauty, grace can make people feel relaxed and happy, and psychologically to constitute a spiritual reward. Therefore, students should be appropriately modified their appearance, weaknesses, pay attention to choose the style and color on different occasions in line with their own clothing, to form their own unique temperament and demeanor. The same time, students should pay attention to the pursuit of external beauty and inner coherence that is outside the show within the Hui, over time, the deepening of exchanges, the role of external beauty will gradually weaken, others attract gradually from the outside and , from the appearance, the instrument to ethics, in order to
3.#p#分頁標題#e# Develop good personality traits
Personality traits attractive to establish a good relationship, bad personality traits impediment to establish a good relationship. Life, we are willing to dealings with the good character of the people, no one is willing and selfishness, hypocrisy, cunning, temperament and rude, narrow-minded people to deal with. Therefore, to continue to form a good personality and attention to overcoming the weakness of character.
4. To strengthen exchanges and close relationship
Psychological research shows that close on http://www.ttc-switch.com/thesis_sample/shehuixuexinlixue/ the spatial distance between people, is to promote an important factor in interpersonal attraction, because the closer position of the space between people, interact with one another, the higher the frequency, the more we help each other understand, to communicate emotions, close relations. Relationships of two people nervous, exchanges may gradually dispel suspicion and misunderstanding.Conversely, even if their relationship is good, but if long-term exchanges, mutual understanding to reduce their relationship may also be gradually fading. Students live together in close contact, which is the objective conditions to establish a good friendship, you should take full advantage of this condition and to maintain appropriate contact frequency with friends, only to interpersonal relationships will not dilute or even disappear.#p#分頁標題#e# Avoid "something was no one thing".